Blog — Doula posts
Your body is changing, your muscles ache, your pelvis is softening to accommodate your growing baby, your organs are running out of space. Feelings of congestion, breathlessness, tiredness, and constantly needing the toilet are common! Physically it may seem you don’t recognise your own body.
Emotions are also not under your control. Your hormones take over, and suddenly simple actions, decision making, and day to day existence can become overwhelming. Plus, looming large on the horizon is your labour. Not to mention the following days, weeks, years of being a parent.
On top of this are the stories you have heard, the TV shows you have watched, and the advice from “well-meaning” friends and family to contend with. A book you read tells you one thing, your antenatal class another, and the hospital disagrees with both. You are on an enormous learning curve, discovering a new language of induction, breastpads, and centile. You are trying to feel in control but your due date could actually be any day within a 5 week time period. You have to guess how you will feel during labour and what you will need – tense machine, water injections, epidural?
Some people have longed to be pregnant, some people have struggled to become pregnant, some have had miscarriages, some have used IVF, and some have had pregnancy thrust upon them. Every pregnant couple has their own story, and their own hopes and fears.
Know that you are unique. Your pregnancy, your baby, you, your partner, your situation – all unique and special. Give yourself time and space to adjust and to learn. Be kind to yourself, indulge yourself, allow yourself to be a mess at times. Slow down. Breathe. You can do this.
Here I am!
I have been carrying around a little book of ideas, and forgetting and then remembering things I want to share, and talking to long suffering friends and family about what I want to do for over a year, and now here I am.
So… my plan is to write about the questions I am asked daily at work by pregnant and postnatal women and their partners. I want to share what I have learnt during the years I have been working and what I know from being a mum myself.
I am lucky to know a number of highly experienced practitioners who have been working with pregnant and postnatal women alongside me, and I hope to include their wisdom in this blog.
Most of all I want to create a source of helpful information for all newly pregnant and postnatal women which will support them on their journeys through their own new beginnings.